In my future relationship we will be a partnership. We will agree that we are not going to get married. I think this will be an easy decision to make. We will meet half way into all things. We will set up an bank account and we will electronically send money to the account each pay check to the account. Before hand we will calculate all of the expenses in house and divide them and that account will go for the house needs. If there is anything extra it will be on the individual person to pay for that expense. Help will only be offered and not expected with extra things.
House labor will be distributed on a rotation schedule. The house is divided in sections and we will weekly rotate the responsibilities. In an event where there someone is not pulling their weight in the house that person must do something nice for the other one on the off week, a I’m sorry kind of gift. In an event there is a sickness, the other person will be notified and no gift is needed nor further explanation. It will be expected that the other person will get the slack in the house. ONLY WHEN THE OTHER PERSON IS SICK.
In the event of children, we will adopt a child.We will go through the process. Both parents will be in charge of providing all child’s needs as long as they live. Support will be given, it will be a framework of structured autonomy. The child will know love and discipline. Both parents will be involved in the educational process of the child. Once the child is born we will gather enough money to get a couple of CD’s for the future education fund, that money will be available to them once they get out of high school. There will be no gender socialization in the house. The child will be able to get what ever they want and play with what ever they want. Their entire room will be white until they decide they want another color. We are going to keep it as neutral as possible until they decide what they want.
The extended family will have no say what goes on under our roof. If there is a problem it will get stopped right at the door. Anyone that would like to have any contact will have to go through us at least a week of head a time. We will follow the same rule. If we are unable to be home, pick up from school, cook dinner, or just anything that can be scheduled we will notify them a week a head of time. If we are unable to get a sitter than we will drop the other task or make other arrangements.
Friends and outside social groups will be encouraged for us to have. My biggest fear is to loose myself within another person or a relationship. As long as the friend is not bringing any type harm to the relationship or to the family.
House labor will be distributed on a rotation schedule. The house is divided in sections and we will weekly rotate the responsibilities. In an event where there someone is not pulling their weight in the house that person must do something nice for the other one on the off week, a I’m sorry kind of gift. In an event there is a sickness, the other person will be notified and no gift is needed nor further explanation. It will be expected that the other person will get the slack in the house. ONLY WHEN THE OTHER PERSON IS SICK.
In the event of children, we will adopt a child.We will go through the process. Both parents will be in charge of providing all child’s needs as long as they live. Support will be given, it will be a framework of structured autonomy. The child will know love and discipline. Both parents will be involved in the educational process of the child. Once the child is born we will gather enough money to get a couple of CD’s for the future education fund, that money will be available to them once they get out of high school. There will be no gender socialization in the house. The child will be able to get what ever they want and play with what ever they want. Their entire room will be white until they decide they want another color. We are going to keep it as neutral as possible until they decide what they want.
The extended family will have no say what goes on under our roof. If there is a problem it will get stopped right at the door. Anyone that would like to have any contact will have to go through us at least a week of head a time. We will follow the same rule. If we are unable to be home, pick up from school, cook dinner, or just anything that can be scheduled we will notify them a week a head of time. If we are unable to get a sitter than we will drop the other task or make other arrangements.
Friends and outside social groups will be encouraged for us to have. My biggest fear is to loose myself within another person or a relationship. As long as the friend is not bringing any type harm to the relationship or to the family.
